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This is an excellent article on strengths and how overuse of a strength can be harmful rather than helpful to ourselves and others.

20 Misused Words That Make Smart People Look Stupid

I regularly read what Travis Bradberry writes in his Talent Smart newsletter. Here is a link that provides some good reminders.
Lie and lay always trip me up...

We’re all tempted to use words that we’re not too familiar with. We throw them around in meetings, e-mails and important documents (such as resumes and client proposals), and they land, like fingernails across a chalkboard, on everyone who has to hear or read them.

TalentSmart Emotional Intelligence - TalentSmart

The holiday season often brings additional stress. As a coach, managing stress and becoming more resilient is a topic of conversation with many clients. I like this article by Travis Bradberry of Talent Smart.

TalentSmart is the world's premier provider of emotional intelligence tests, training, and products. Our site is your guide to emotional intelligence books, presentations, training, and free emotional intelligence articles and resources.


This coaching tool can be used with team members to increase their ownership and engagement. It is called the Successful Six. It presumes a collaborative approach where the manager's desire is to develop team members as well as stay informed of progress. Strong listening and assertion skills are necessary for the process to be effective.

The Successful Six

Everyone wants to perform meaningful work and to be successful in their roles. Leaders can help their teams succeed when they encourage transparent and candid communication in all directions. In times of change, such as onboarding new team members or adopting a new process or procedures, more frequent communication is necessary. Using a coaching approach, managers can ask the following six questions when working with team members to insure alignment and greater success:

1) What are your goals?
2) What are your priorities?
3) What do you need from me to succeed in your role?
4) How will you know when you’ve been successful?
5) How will you keep me apprised of your progress?
6) How will you let me know when you have challenges that will impact quality, milestones, deadlines, etc?

4 Rules You Need To Know To Help Manage Expectations At Work

When people are frustrated or unhappy at work, a lack of clarity around expectations may be the source of discontent. Check out this article.

Lauren Still of Careerevolution Group weighs in on the four rules you need to know to help manage expectations at work.

Albert Einstein Quotes

Albert Einstein Quotes

"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them." - Albert Einstein quotes from

Creativity Is the Heart of the Human Experience

"On the whole, humans are creative and collaborative, not corrupt." Good words to hear.

Don’t let the 24-hour news cycle and the drudgery of daily life mislead you. On the whole, humans are creative and collaborative, not corrupt.


Excellent article
Why Emotional Self Awareness is Critical for Leaders

Self control is a key leadership competency - after all how can you expect people to follow you if you act on or voice any random thought that pops into your head? If you are one of those people who pride themselves on thinking before you act, you may wonder why you need emotional self awareness.

Have you ever been in an extremely stressful situation and found yourself acting or saying things out of character? Have you ever found that someone pushed your buttons and you went to a place that you almost never go and you ended up doing or saying something that you regret? Have your staff or others complained about your behavior? Or have you shut down in a meeting, sunk into your chair, and said nothing when speaking up was called for?

I was raised with the Japanese concept “Gaman” which meant that you endure stresses without complaint and push through, regardless of how you feel. I grew up to be very reserved and out of touch with my emotions. Over time, I realized that some of the situations that I mentioned above were happening to me and I analyzed what was happening.

I realized that I might have avoided these situations had I been more emotionally self aware. None of us would dream of driving after a snowstorm without checking to see what the road conditions are. Why would we interact with others in emotionally charged situations without knowing what our conditions are?

Now when I am meeting with a person or people who I know tend to push my buttons, I prepare myself mentally to be calm and not to allow them to get under my skin. Sometimes dressing more formally helps me to remember how I need to comport myself. When I prepare, I find that I am better able to keep my emotions under control and be the leader that I want to be.

Of course, many emotionally charged situations cannot be predicted and prepared for. In those situations it is important to recognize the rising emotional charge in yourself and act to neutralize it before it spirals out of control.

Emotional self awareness is not difficult to cultivate, but for those of us who are not used to thinking about our emotions, it feels a little strange. Take a few minutes every morning to center yourself and take inventory about how you are feeling emotionally, and acknowledge it. By starting to think consciously about your emotions at least once every day, you will begin to cultivate the practice of monitoring them, and eventually you will get to the place when you are aware of your emotions in the moment. I have found that thinking about my emotions at least once a day has made me more aware in general. Is it perfect yet? No, it is a work in progress, and I am moving in the right direction.

By: Kris Ishibashi

How Successful People Make Smart Decisions

Are you making purposeful decisions today? Sometimes one decision has huge ramifications. Just think about it...

Your days are filled with a constant stream of decisions. A study from Columbia University found that we’re bogged down by a good 70 decisions a day.Some decisions are minor, like what to eat, which route to drive to work, or in what order to tackle tasks. Others are more difficult, like deciding be…

Women as Leaders

Women as Leaders

When people think about leadership, images of powerful dynamic individuals who command victorious armies, shape the events of nations, develop religions, or direct corporate empires come to mind. Researchers have long found that people think “male” when they think “leader,” and that this result tran…

NASA | Reach, Strive, Achieve: Sandra Cauffman's TEDx Talk

Sandra Cauffman is an amazing woman. I was honored that she asked me to assist her in writing her TEDx talk to be delivered in Costa Rica. Below is NASA's adapted version in which she is the narrator. Listen to her 12 minute presentation and prepare to be inspired.

On October 23, 2014 Sandra Cauffman was invited to talk at the TEDx PuraVidaJoven at the National Auditorium in San Jose, Costa Rica, where she was born. Her...

Win Every Interview with these 6 Steps

In my coaching I have helped many people prepare for interviews. I think this book is an excellent resource.

Three unbelievably cool things happened to me this week. On Monday, my publisher sent me the first hardcover copies of my new book, Work Rules! It’s a real thing now! On Tuesday, the CEO of a major company told me he’d been following my interviews with Tom Friedman about how to get a job at Google,…

The Holy Grail of Effective Communication

I think this is an excellent article. I've also found that teaching the skills is only half of the equation. Motivating managers to be authentic and honest and, encouraging them to create a safe climate for employees is the greater challenge. Effective leadership communication must begin with managers.

For more than 20 years I have been helping organizations and individuals improve their communication effectiveness in both professional and personal settings. I have developed and delivered training on a wide variety of communication topics: presentation skills, high-impact writing, active listening…


I just returned from Chicago where I facilitated a class on Advanced Leadership Communication Strategies. Several of the participants had a great sense of humor. We learned and laughed for 3 days. I was reminded how effective leaders can be, when they share their humor.

How Successful People Stay Calm

Many of us allow ourselves to think, "when I get through this, then I won't feel so stressed." There will always be something that causes us stress. The key is to learn strategies that become a regular part of our lives, so that we can perform, or be motivated to be our best, on a regular basis.

The ability to manage your emotions and remain calm under pressure has a direct link to your performance. TalentSmart has conducted research with more than a million people, and we’ve found that 90%

flickspire - What Winners Are

Last week I was at UVA, Darden Business School, coaching top Army brass who were part of an Executive Education program. I was so impressed by these men and women. They asked for and took seriously the feedback they received so that they could continue to improve and develop their leadership skills. As the Army continues to recruit and build strong leaders, we can feel proud. The saying, "Army Strong", has new significance for me. "Winning" has more than one meaning.

The things you truly want in life are NEVER just handed to you for free, they must be earned.Most of the time to build yourself up, you need to break yourself apart. And it's right there that life looks down to the depths of your soul and says...You Want It...Prove it!

Mentoring 101

Mentoring is critical to leadership development. Any time I've worked in a long term leadership development program, participants have told me that the Mentoring component was invaluable to them. Take a look at this slide show from a colleague for information about Mentoring.

Jenni Luke, CEO of Step Up Women’s Network, offers advice to the members of Connect: Professional Women's Network on everything you need to know about mentori

NSADC - Speaker University

Want to take your speaking skills AND business to a new level? Join me at Speaker University: Powerful Speaking for Impact and Profit on 4/13 from 9-5 at GMU.

Great opportunity to learn from the masters. Early-bird registration extended till 3/31. Sponsored by Natl Speakers Assoc-DC and Washington Business Journal.

TEDxOverlake - Susan Scott - The Case for Radical Transparency

Communicating honestly, with sensitivity, has long been a value for me. I've practiced this in my personal and business relationships years. Many times it has served me well. At times, when the conversation has been repeated and distorted or misrepresented, I've discovered that honest communication can be risky. Listen to the video clip below and share your reactions.

Susan Scott is a best-selling author and leadership development architect who has enabled top executives worldwide to engage in vibrant dialogue with one ano...


In a recent production of "Newsies" a young boy remarked, "The boss doesn't have all of the answers." "He just needs to have the brains to recognize a good idea when he hears one."
If you're a superviser, when was the last time you asked for suggestions or new ideas? Often, an employee is waiting for the right time to speak with you. The time is "right" now.


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